Today is the day I turn 30! It's one of the birthday's we view as a milestone yet I'm unsure exactly what I am meant to feel today, the build up had me believe I will suddenly be entrusted with some life shattering wisdom held safe by a secret members club. Instead I feel like myself, like usual, but with perhaps a little more experience and a little less inclination to make bad decisions. To celebrate I have created a list of all the things I have learnt at 30, enjoy!

1/ You have always been a late bloomer, whether it’s your first period, kiss, career job, promotion, you do things at your own pace. Don’t beat yourself up about it and don’t compare your journey to other peoples.

2/ Always trust your gut, you know you are usually a great judge of character so roll with it.

3/ Don’t keep putting yourself out for others who don’t do the same in return, they will show their true colours a little too late and you’ll get hurt.

4/ You are beautiful! You spent so much of your early twenties not feeling like you are but eventually you’ll feel more confident in your own skin, love yourself!

5/ Friends are the family you choose, you’ve done a great job of making wonderful memories with them so far - keep that up.

6/ Family are irreplaceable and you will loose two out of your three remaining Grandparents in your late twenties, make time for family too.

7/ All the boys who have really hurt your feelings had a name that start with J. The two that broke your heart both had the initials J.W - stay away from J.W’s.

8 / “We accept the love we think we deserve”. You deserve so much more than you accepted. You deserve the image you have had in your head since you were a teenager of how it should be, and one day all the painstaking self preservation you had to fight for to hold onto that little piece of belief you still have inside you will pay off.

9/ Read as much as possible, it becomes your solace and escape and you could have really used it throughout your twenties.

10/ You are incredibly hard working but rarely give yourself credit for it. It is ok to have a day off and do n-o-t-h-i-n-g, this is recharging not laziness. Begin to praise yourself more often and stop saying “I can’t believe this has happened” and replace it with “wow I made this happen”.

11/ Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t be afraid to say your struggling.

12/ Everything happens when it is meant to be.

13/ Stop referring to yourself as a girl, you are a woman. A beautiful, courageous, successful woman. 

14/ Change is good. If you keep doing the same thing over and over again you will only ever get the same result. Mix things up every once in a while and see what happens.

15/ You are very ambitious and you will get to exactly where you want to go, you just need to learn a little patience.

16/ Your mental health is non-negotiable. Life will take you out like a rogue wave at one point during your late twenties but you will tread water, then you will float and a little later on you will build yourself a new boat. During this time and any time, if something has a negative impact on your mental health leave it behind.

17/ It’s ok to leave people behind, whether thats a friendship or romantically. Some people are only right for certain phases of your life and the ones that really matter will always stick around.

18/ If you achieve a goal you had set out and then it turns out it wasn’t what you thought it was going to be that’s ok. You can always change your mind and go in another direction instead. It’s never too late.

19/ Learn to be better with money, retail therapy is ok once in a while but putting some money to one side each month is a much better investment.

20/ You will probably never ‘feel like a grown up’. It’s a myth that doesn’t exist, you will find yourself in situations where you make more mature decisions based off of previous bad decisions, but you will always feel twenty two inside. Hold onto this with all your might.

21/ Always arrive at the airport two hours early.

22/ Always ask the person serving you food if it has nuts in it.

23/ The rumour of hangovers getting worse when you get older is unfortunately true. Never drink more than three glasses of anything if you don’t want to feel horrendous the next day.

24/ The rumour that you are still able to stay up all night partying until the sun rises again is fortunately true. Never indulge in this kind of activity without your three meals that day if you don’t want to feel horrendous the next day.

25/ Nothing will make your heart as happy as close friends getting married.

26/ If all else fails a good pair of jeans, smart flats and a blouse is always a good combination.

27/ You have a fringe for a reason, learn to embrace the fact that the best haircut you’ve ever heard is the exact same one you had at five years old. If it ain’t broke don’t try to fix it.

28/ Tidying your room/flat/house is one quick and easy way to instantly feel better about your grip on life. Fresh flowers will make you feel unstoppable.

29/ The older you get, the better you feel. More self assured, less worried about others opinions and confident in your decision making.

30/ The whole idea that you have to have completed a tick list of things by the time you reach 30 is a lie, don’t fall for it. You are always exactly where you are supposed to be, so enjoy the ride!